It still looks like mom will come home a week from Friday....Friday, December 2, 2011! 98% sure it will be that day!
Claudia started the day with mom this morning. Claudia and John had a rough night. I woke to a text on my cell phone saying that Jean had been in a car accident. Thankfully, praise God, he is fine. His car was totaled though. Thank God Jean is OK. The other driver confessed to being at fault. The other driver swerved to miss a puddle and hit Jean’s car head on. Right now, as I write this, Jean and Claudia and John are in the emergency room getting Jean’s knee x-rayed as per the chiropractor. Please say a prayer for them. Thanks.
Mom needed to use the bathroom. It took sooo long to get help. Breakfast time is hectic with only a few CNAs to hand out all the trays. Finally, 2 of the nurses saw what was going on and helped mom---so nice!
Mom’s friend, Helen, called mom yesterday. Mom was thrilled and surprised. She hasn’t talked to mom in over a year. They had a nice conversation.
Anthony and Con came to see mom this morning too. Mom was watching TV with the table in front of her. They talked to mom and she couldn’t hear them because Claudia forgot to put her hearing aids in. They hung out, talked, read magazines, and then mom had lunch.
Dad came around noon just before lunch. After lunch, dad and the OT worked with mom in the bathroom. Dad helped mom alone in the bathroom and they did really well together (3 times). Dad practices telling mom what to do---to stand, where to place her feet on the floor, how to turn, sit… They did PT in the hallway. Dad said that mom stood at the rail on the wall in the hallway 5 times to a count of 30. Dad said that the physician’s assistant put a “patch” on mom’s neck to dry up the excess secretions she has. The secretions prevent the stoma from healing.
Dad said that, when mom gets home, he is going to bring her for allergy testing again. She used to get allergy shots. Dad and Terry transferred all the contents of mom and dad’s closets from one to the other last night so that mom’s things will be in one room where the beds are, close to her.
Mom read all the signs on the wall after dad left. She asked me with tears in her eyes, “I wonder if dad still likes me or not? I mean I don’t have any make up on or anything.” She cried. I reassured her that dad wouldn’t come sit with her each day if he didn’t love her anymore. Mom then cheered up and teased and said she doesn’t want anyone to come see her without make up on anymore.
I had mom write in her journal. She resisted but wrote:
“Wednesday Nv 23, 2011
Kathy is very mean to me because sHe won’t let me do anything i want to do. I wat (want) to do. I want to sit and watch TV and eat special snacks BUT Kathy wants to work and Kathy wants me to write Kathy is a pest. Kath Anthony and Con came to see me today Kathy came Later, DaD came all afternoon.”
Mom was very fidgety and said she can’t sit still. She said, “It must be my medication.” I told her she doesn’t take any. She was surprised. She said it is from boredom!!
Mom studied the pictures on the closet door. She told me that she wants a new picture of Terry and then she said that, when she dies, she wants all the pictures at her funeral. She is too much!
I told mom that we should do some work and she said, “NO! I want to sit here and just fidget all night” and teased me and laughed. The CNA came to put her to bed next. There was no one available to assist so the nurse came to help. They don’t use the walker and they tell mom to stand but they just lift her manually and give her no time to stand on her own. Very few people follow directions. It is such a hopeless cause. We all work so hard to help mom and some of the people just ignore what is correct to do for mom.
The CNA had mom hanging upside-down in the bed. Her legs and feet were elevated and her head was down lower than on a flat bed. Mom was complaining that she was getting dizzy so I asked the aide to move the head of bed up but I was ignored, all while mom complained of being dizzy. The aide finally said, “Oh really? I didn’t know she was upside down.” So I said, “Stand at the end of the bed and look and you can see what I am talking about.” The aide ignored me. I finally used the remote on the bed to lift mom’s head up. Then, when I turned around, mom began to complain again. When I turned to look at mom, I saw that the aide now had one pillow covering the side of mom’s face, while the other pillow covered the top of her head. The aide was kind in her words and affect (not like the other night---it was the same aide I had a problem with), but the aide was ignoring mom. Unbelievable.
Once mom was in bed comfortably, Lenny came to see her. She was thrilled!!! He sat and talked to her and they reminisced about when he was little. Lenny told mom that she will be home soon and mom said, “Oh! I’m getting paroled finally?!!” They laughed.
Mom kept telling us to go home. Lenny and I tucked mom in and prayed with her and anointed her with oil and left.
“Oh Lord, I will honor and praise your name, for you are my God. You do such wonderful things! You planned them long ago, and now you have accomplished them.” Isaiah 25:1
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